- I can't just not count every single minute of television time that my children get and agonize over every single one (BTW Finn is watching Wubbzy as I write this)
- I can't get less than eight exact hours of sleep and still be in a good and energetic mood the next day
- I can't not tell myself what a horrible imperfect slob I am everytime I want to sit and watch FRIENDS at 5:30 in the afternoon
And so on. But you know what? I decided a couple of months ago that maybe these things weren't set in stone. I thought, maybe, just MAYBE, I could try to NOT freak about these things for one month, (hell, even just one week!) and I could wait and see if the world fell apart or the sun went spiraling out into space. And, as I'm sure you know, it hasn't. In fact, life has been a lot better when I don't agonize about all the little things that I SHOULDN'T be doing. And I thought of it all by myself (although Robert Holden has been a huge influence)! Is it possible that I could LET myself just be happy?! Amazing!
So, tonight, after eating all the leftover macaroni straight from the pot (with the big spoon and all), I reminded myself just how great I am. I have a master's degree dammit!! I worked hard for it! And I do things! I go to the zoo on rainy days just to get out. And I enter writing contests! I work at things! And, most importantly at the moment although it REALLY doesn't feel spectacular, I am there for my kids. When I am daydreaming about running away to an ashram in India, I remind myself that right now, THIS is where I need to be. I decided to bring them into the world and they need me. This thought usually keeps me from climbing the walls. Let's see them make an episode of Gossip Girl where Blair trails two toddlers all day (without Dorota's help!). Her Manolo's would be stubs by lunchtime.
Now if you will excuse me, I have to go pry Finn away from Noggin...
You are an amazing woman, wife and mother! Raising children, and devoting your life to mainly them, especially toddlers is very draining and all-consuming and it's hard not to question your life during that time. But it gets better, and less demanding as time goes on! Don't sweat the small stuff! :)
ReplyDeleteIt WILL get better. Trust me. I didn't think so but once your youngest turns 3 in gets better/different. You are doing a great job and you have 2 of the cutest kids ever.
ReplyDeleteliz. thank you so much for sharing how you feel with reckless abandon. i was so blessed by your transparency and encouraged by your thoughts. you ARE an incredible mother and a great friend. i seriously thank God for your friendship and the special place you (and your family) have in our lives. i'm honored to know you. and now i know you more. thank you.
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